“Wake
up you lazy fella!” yelled Arin as he pinched the arm of his ever-sleepy room
mate Tony. Tony gave a growl in his sleep, turned around and went back into his
slumber. After 10 minutes Arin kicked Tony lightly on his leg “Hey sleeping
beauty – snoring like a beast – wake up now!” Another growl, slightly louder
this time, but nothing more than that from Tony. After 10 more minutes, Arin
came with a jug full of water and splashed it on Tony’s sleepy face “Stop
‘snoozing’ me like that – okay? I am not an alarm clock! Wake up right away
‘sleepy sleeperson’” Now Tony had no choice. He jumped off the bed wiping his
wet face, while yawning out loudly. The two room-mates got ready in the next
few minutes and rushed out to take the test – that day they were taking the
final test of the semester on computer networks: an important day for all the
candidates studying Computer Science & Engineering at the university.
Arin
and Tony had been room-mates and best friends for over a year. They had moved to
the university campus in Pilani – a small town in the Rajasthan region in
India, about a year ago. They were randomly put together in one room by the
hostel authorities. Arin came from the southern state of Kerala and Tony was an
expat from Singapore. They were very different – they liked different food, had
different habits, spoke different languages and had different approaches to
address similar situations.
Arin
was always an early bird – woke up at 6 AM sharp. He had been doing this since
he was a child – it was part of his daily regime. He always went for a quick
jog in the morning before he started his day. He was always on time at school,
and was considered one of the most reliable and trust-worthy individuals at the
university. He came from an upper middle-class catholic family from Kerala. His
parents were professors at a local university in Kochi. Arin was trained to be
highly methodical – he always followed rules and processes.
Tony
was a late starter – he slept late and woke up late. He was a “nonconformist” -
a brilliant young lad who had a number of unique and different ideas. He did
not necessarily follow rules – in fact, he had a knack of bending rules to his
convenience to get tasks done. Born and brought up in Singapore, he was half
Singaporean and half Tamilian – his dad was from Singapore and mother from
Chennai. He had always lived in expat communities and had travelled around the
world.
With
all their differences, one thing that they had in common was their
open-mindedness and curiosity. That made it very easy for them to live together
and enjoy their student life irrespective of all their differences. On most
occasions they would complement each other. Arin was the methodical,
process-driven perfectionist, while Tony was the free spirit – ready to explore
ideas outside of the box, try new approaches and bend rules if not break them.
Together they made a solid team. They also learnt a lot from each other – Tony
started appreciating some of Arin’s processes and Arin started finding Tony’s
unusual ways interesting.
Tony
always depended upon Arin to wake him up every morning – Arin was really like
an alarm clock. He never slept a minute after 6 AM. And every morning after his
short jog, he would wake Tony up. Not once did Tony wake up in the first
attempt. Arin felt like an alarm clock that is “snoozed” over and over again.
And then out of frustration he would jump to extreme measures such as pouring a
jug of water on Tony’s sleepy face!
They
were both studying to become software engineers, and worked on a number of
different projects together – some as part of their regular curriculum, and
others out of their own interest. They built many interesting programs and
applications that could work on different devices.
Togetherness
was not limited to work - They also had parties, picnics, movie nights, trips,
a bunch of drunken adventures –everything you could possibly imagine a couple
of twenty year olds to do!
Before
they realized it, they had reached their final semester. The students were all
planning their next moves – jobs, entrepreneurship or more study. Tony decided
to pursue a career in research and started preparing for the same. He received
an acceptance from MIT to pursue a Master’s degree in computer engineering
followed by a PhD. It was exciting! Arin on the other hand wanted to pursue an
MBA. Top business schools recommended candidates to have firsthand professional
experience before they applied. So Arin decided to take up a job. He was
offered a software developer role at a bank in Mumbai. The role was very well
paid and was a great stepping stone for his next steps – an MBA in finance from
an international Business school. He decided to accept the opportunity.
Soon
it was time for the graduation ceremony. Everyone was excited and happy to
receive their diplomas and they were all looking forward to their upcoming
careers. Of course, they were sad that their fun student life was coming to an
end. Arin and Tony in particular knew that they would be missing each other.
Soon after the ceremony Tony had to embark upon a flight to the US. He had to
get to the New Delhi Airport from Pilani. Arin joined him and his family, to
say goodbye at the airport. When they reached the terminal, Arin handed over a
little box – a present for Tony. “This will replace me buddy – it has a snooze
button too” he smiled.
Tony
boarded the flight and opened the box – it was an Alarm clock. Yes, he was
going to need that in his friend’s absence.
A
number of years passed. Tony had completed his graduation and his PhD at MIT.
As a result of his high caliber and excellent research credentials, he had been
offered the position of Associate Professor and research scientist at the
Stanford University – department of computer science. He had accepted the offer
and had been working with the university while continuing his ad-hoc research
work. He was still a free-spirit and a nonconformist, but thanks to the 5 years
spent with Arin, he had learnt to appreciate methods and rules. He was one of
the most respected computer scientists in the world of academia. He was also a
well-known figure in the business world, and his consultative advice was
requested frequently by digital businesses all over the world. Every year he
took a 2 month break to visit an underprivileged village in India or Africa and
gave free computer coaching to young children. He was very much involved in
philanthropy and was much admired for the same.
Tony
had remained in touch with his old friend – at least in the few years after
graduation. Arin had followed his dream too – after 5 years of professional
experience at the bank in Mumbai, he had applied to top international business
schools. He was accepted to pursue an MBA in Finance at the London Business
School. He had completed his business studies with flying colors and had become
an investment banker in London. He had started as an analyst with an
international investment bank, and very quickly had moved up the ladder from
being an associate to being a Director.
The
job of an investment banker is a coveted, financially rewarding one, however,
it comes with significant stress. Routine working hours for a financial analyst
at an investment bank could be 90 to 100 per week. People often have
misconceptions about investment bankers – that all they do is number crunching,
financial data modeling & projections. But in reality investment bankers
spend a lot of time with clients – social skills are very important to be a
successful investment banker. Arin had it all – he was highly analytical, and
at the same time was great with clients. He was hard working and never had a
problem working extra hours. Often he would have to work late nights, which
meant, he would often wake up late too – Tony’s old alarm clock had surely lost
its rhythm!
Arin’s
workaholic life continued – he worked a lot, and he earned a lot too. Soon he
became a very rich man, and earning money became an obsession to Arin. The
young man who was once very particular about his rules and had always followed
them, had now become an expert at bending them if it meant more money.
His
bosses were very pleased with Arin – he always helped them make more money. He
always found creative ways to involve and engage with investors and take their
money tactfully. He never ever broke the law and the rules, but he very nicely
worked around the law to ensure that his bank, his bosses and he himself were
becoming richer and richer.
To
begin with, this caused no problems to anyone; however a few years after Arin’s
marriage things started to get harder – his wife was not a happy woman! They
had a child together, but Arin rarely saw his family – he was so obsessed with
work and money – it was an addiction.
A
few more years passed – now the contact between Tony and Arin had been reduced
to “Happy Birthdays” – no, that’s not true. It was limited to Arin’s birthdays
– Tony never missed wishing his old friend – but Arin had always missed Tony’s
birthdays. Arin had started gaining weight and losing hair and though he was
barely 42, he looked a lot older. Excessive work, lack of exercise, unhealthy
eating habits, stress – you name it and Arin had it all. The last thing that
one would want at this time was the news of a divorce.
Arin’s
wife filed for a divorce and claimed the custody of their only son. Not that it
mattered much to Arin – he was completely drunk by work and money – it was as
if he was in a deep slumber and nothing could wake him up from that.
Arin’s
old mother was immensely unhappy and disturbed to see the life of her only son
fall to pieces – even worse, her son did not ever realize that his life was
falling apart! All he cared about was more of what he already had – money, and
the stress that came with it!
Arin
had no friends that she could turn to, so she decided to call his old friend
Tony. She broke down as she explained to Tony what had happened. Tony was not
very surprised to hear about these sad developments in Arin’s life. On several
occasions in the past he had tried to persuade Arin to change his life-style.
But Arin had ignored all his advice and had turned a complete deaf ear to
Tony’s words. But now, things had gotten out of hand – Arin’s health, his
family, his friends, his ethics were all leaving him, and yet, he was not
willing to wake up from his craziness. He had received so many alarms in many
different ways, but he had conveniently “snoozed” each and every one of them!
Tony
decided to pay a visit to Arin at his lush house in London. He made up an
excuse of a European holiday and came to see his old friend. Unsurprisingly,
Arin was not there at the terminal to pick him up, but he had sent a chauffeur
driven Mercedes to pick Tony up. The car took Tony to Arin’s house. His old
mother welcomed Tony, and told him that Arin was at office – as usual. After
some rest, Tony took a little walk in central London and came back home at
dinner time, with the hope that Arin would be back. But there was no sign of
Arin. It was past 10 PM, and Arin’s mom suggested they ate dinner. As she was
serving Tony at the dining table the phone rang – it was Arin’s subordinate
from the bank. Arin had just been admitted to the hospital as he had suffered a
sudden heart attack.
Tony
rushed to the hospital and waited for the medical procedures to be conducted on
Arin. After a while the doctor informed Tony that Arin was now out of danger,
and that he had been administered some sleep medication so that he rested for a
few hours. Tony sat next to his friend and held his hand. He had tears in his
eyes to see Arin in such a state. He wept for a long time remembering their old
days together at the university. What had Arin gotten himself into! He was
always the reliable, methodical chap – could he not have applied a few of that
methodical thinking to his own life? How did things get so unbalanced?
He
had Arin’s hand in his as he was thinking and reflecting on the past. There was
a time when he had depended on Arin – his best friend to wake him up every
morning from his slumber. Arin had been his alarm clock, and today Arin was
fast asleep – asleep in his obsession for money and power: so fast asleep that
so many triggers, signs and alarms had failed to wake him up. Tony wished that
his friend woke up from that slumber today. “Wake up brother, wake up” he said
softly.
A
few hours later it was morning. Tony was next to Arin as he opened his eyes.
“Tony!
Sorry I wasn’t there to receive you. Have been rather busy you see.” He said.
“And then had these sharp pains in my chest last night, and they had to get me
here. I hope I get out of this place soon. I have an urgent meeting to attend
today”. Tony was utterly disappointed to see that Arin had “snoozed” the alarm
once again!
“You
will be released in a few days Arin. You cannot attend that meeting today. Do
you know you had a heart attack? Your bank has been informed that you cannot
return to work today”. Tony said, realizing that he had to do something else to
make Arin wake up. Later that day, he met with Arin’s wife. She was shocked to
hear about Arin’s heart attack, and agreed to help get Arin out of his
addiction.
Arin
was unhappy to hear that he would not be going to the bank for days – what
could the bank do without him? He was indispensable. His presence at meetings
was absolutely required. He was the one that made things happen! He thought
that his colleagues and supervisors from the bank would be rushing to the
hospital to get him. He waited all day – but his phone never rang. He had no
visitors from the bank.
The
following day he waited again – no visitors from the bank and no phone calls.
The only people he saw around him were his mother and his good friend Tony. In
the afternoon per Tony’s advice Arin’s wife and son came by to meet him. They
stayed with him the rest of the day. It was literally the first time he was
spending time with his son, who started telling him stories from school. Arin
had never really played the role of a father, but he found that he was enjoying
his son’s company – he was actually enjoying it a lot. His son was just as
curious, methodical and intelligent as he was. He started remembering some of
his childhood days as he saw his son ask all types of questions. That made him
smile, that made him really happy!
For
the first time, at the end of the day he felt “happy”. He asked his wife if she
could bring their kid along again the next day. She agreed. They did this every
day for the following 15 days. Arin’s mother, his wife and son kept him great
company, together with Tony. Tony could see that slowly, his scheme was
working. Arin was getting closer to his son.
There
were no visitors from the bank. Arin gradually realized that the bank did not
really care much about him. All he received from them was a “Get well soon”
card – not a single visit, nor a phone call.
He
had given away several years of his life making the bank richer – years that
could have been spent with people around him: people who really cared for him –
his wife & child, his mother, his best friend. He had taken them all for
granted. But ultimately when he was about to die, they were the ones who stayed
with him. They gave him the strength to survive. They made him happy and gave
him the motivation to live longer.
After
the 15 days, Arin moved back home. His family and his best friend were with
him, and they celebrated his return together. “Will you be returning to work
soon Arin?” Tony asked.
Arin
smiled and looked Tony into the eye; he took a deep breath as he said “I have
sent my resignation to the bank a week ago, Tony. I have finally woken up from
my slumber – thanks to you all.
Friend,
thank you for being my alarm clock – I kept snoozing you whenever you advised
me to change my approach towards life, but you kept trying, until I was finally
awake. Thank you for waking me up today.”
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